First and foremost: i hope that my dilligent blog-buddy will post often during her difficult time. while i can't be there beside her to push and nudge, console and commisurate, i am with her in heart and in hurt. i love you.
now, on to pure drudgery.
i am an open and honest person (for the most part), and ideally, i like the idea of people being open and honest with me (unless it's really painful, then feel free to temper yourself a bit). i've been told that i give too much too soon. then, the mystery and thrill of the hunt are over and men tire and move along. yes?
okay, so, this is the beginning of something new for me. i decided today, well, like 30 minutes ago, that i would now become 'hard to get'.
huh
only i don't know how to do it without coming off as bitchy and, well, not myself. (this is not to say that bitchy is not part of my character makeup).
in short, we went out on two dates, about two weeks ago. yes, i slept with him on both dates. so what. i wanted sex, i got it. emails have been scarce over the last two weeks with gaps that leave me quite questioning. but today, after nothing for several days, i got one. an email that tells me he's in AZ helping a friend and playing. an email that tells me that he'll be back in town on tuesday. an email that asks if i want "to hang out?"
DUH! of course i do. but, would the 'hard to get' girl tell him that? or, would she wait two or three days to get back to him on his email? would she tell him she has plans for tuesday, how's wednesday? would she sleep with him again? (the sex was pretty good).
a mutual friend tells me he's a "player, but not in a mean way". he's a big (handsome) fish in a (very) small pond out here. he likely has his pick of serveral women on any given night. i'm sure he's had sex at least once since we saw each other, and likely left a few girls panting and teased. so, my friend tells me i have to stand out. i have to be less interested. i have to hold back. i have to be hard to get.
so, please advise... how would the hard to get girl respond? because as much as i want to be gotten, i don't want to stray too far from the girl i am. i want desperately to be wanted desperately, for who and how i am and not a game i've played. and i like this guy. in a down to earth way. so, now, more than ever, i don't want to dive in too fast only to crash on the rocks.
3 comments:
I have never been able to play hard to get. So, I wish I could help.
Hard to get is not a good idea. Hard to use is a good idea. Does that make sense?
It's a primative dance that starts with a strong drumbeat, progresses to the two dancers circling each other, and ends in embrace. Sometimes something is lost by skipping the circling. That's the part where we judge how the other dancer's moves and intentions merge with our own.
Sarah, I just know that you are a wonderful person. Enjoy the moments.
testing testing: i'm not a fan of the game playing. i think you're right, hurt often follows.
pegan: you may not have played it, but you have been it. and honey, you do help, you always do.
nwo: wow. that was lovely. i've got the drumbeat down. and i'm always ready for the embrace. i guess i'm a little dodgey on the circling though. thank you for the kind words though. i'll keep you posted on the moments.
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